Tuesday, August 28, 2012

From Bashful to Brazen: The Indiscreet Breastfeeder's Manifesto

From Bashful to Brazen: A Breastfeeding ManifestoRecently I read a sweet little how-to article about nursing discreetly in public. It offered all manner of well-meaning and socially acceptable advice, the gist of which was to make sure the breast never sees the light of day. The key to success is keeping covered. If all is done carefully, the article suggested, no one except mother and baby need know that breastfeeding is taking place.

This seemingly reasonable advice is offensive to me. I want people to know that breastfeeding is happening. I'm proud to say I have nursed my two children almost everywhere. We are not discreet nursers, and although I probably could have been more careful, I have chosen to let it all hang out for personal and political reasons. 

Some of our indiscretions are built into the system. I have big breasts that are hard to hide completely while wrestling them in and out of bras and babies' mouths. My children have fought against having their faces covered (they want to see me), and both were born with the delightful habit of humming as they nurse. There's no disguising what is going on when the Mmmm begins. Everyone notices, even people who were trying very hard not to. As if that weren't enough, my 18-month-old daughter has named the act of nursing "boop," which she whines as she tears at my clothing. It doesn't fool anybody.

Then there's the issue of my wardrobe. I prefer to wear dresses, and my concession to nursing has been dresses that button down the front. I am comfortable unbuttoning my dress, opening my bra, and baring my breasts as needed.

I wasn't always this uninhibited. One of my first public nursing experiences, in a grocery store, was embarrassing and awful. I was a new mama with a screaming, kicking, purple-faced four month old. After trying to calm my son by singing, rocking, and plugging him with a pacifier, I desperately let him latch on. I was wearing a nursing dress that more or less hid my flesh, but it was still obvious what we were doing. An older woman came up to me and said, "Honey, I teach breastfeeding, and I always tell my girls to carry a tea towel with them, so they can keep themselves covered up."

"I'm trying to keep him covered," I replied meekly. "That's why I'm wearing this dress, but he won't let me cover his face." "Well, honey," she replied. "You're making a spectacle of yourself. Nursing is wonderful, isn't it? Next time, you remember to bring a tea towel."

I knew that if I met her eyes or tried to speak I would lose control over the tears I was just managing to hold back. So I huddled over my baby and avoided eye contact with the other shoppers. Shame soon turned to rage however, and I began to seethe. "How dare she?" I thought. "How could she say she teaches breastfeeding yet be so unsupported when I was obviously struggling and already embarrassed? How could I be a spectacle? He was screaming; now, because I'm nursing him, he's quiet. What does she teach her 'girls?' Shame?"

The encounter had the exact opposite effect on me than the woman had intended. It made me bound and determined never to use a tea towel--whatever that is. Her advice did not make me bashful; it made me brazen.

Since that day, I have nursed openly in some pretty amusing situations, including during an eye exam and while taking the written test for my driver's license. Neither the optometrist nor the DMV examiner asked me to stop. In fact, both were encouraging, if a little embarrassed, saying that it was a first for them, but that I should just go ahead and do what was best for my baby.

I have nursed while getting my hair cut and my oil changed. I have nursed in libraries, museums, and malls, at weddings and parties, in stores and waiting rooms, in line at the grocery store, and while waiting on customers in the bookstore where I work. Not to mention in restaurants, airports, parks, zoos, and the Morehead City Seafood Festival beer garden (I had juice, of course). Once I made myself at home on the patio furniture display at K-Mart. Another time I sat on the edge of the dairy case at the grocery store; a passing manager assured me I could sit there as long as I needed.

I have made a couple of observations during these blatant breastfeeding. One is that some people are embarrassed at first, but they recover quickly; the other, that most people are wonderfully supportive. I get a few stares now and then, but I have not been asked to leave, to stop nursing, or to cover up. Mostly I see smiles and nods of approval. If people comment at all, it's positive ("What a happy baby." "Breastfeeding is so good for babies." "Listen to her hum!" "I nursed my babies--isn't it wonderful?"). I'm sure this is due, in part, to my smiling confidence and approachable manner. Or maybe it's the "I am woman, hear me roar!" sparkle in my eye that keeps people in their places. Whatever it is, it has worked for me. But I often feel like the only mother nursing in public. I can understand being the lone breastfeeder in a restaurant, but why in the pediatrician's waiting room? At the playground? At PTA meetings? Where are all the other nursing mothers? Are they all so well-covered that I don't see them, or, as I expect, are they nursing out of the public eye? Some of my nursing friends even pack a bottle of expressed milk or formula in the diaper bag when they go out, to save themselves "the trouble." Well, I am one lazy mama-there's no way I would take the time to make up bottles just to spare myself some awkward moments. And besides awkward moments, what could possibly be inconvenient about nursing?

Why is public breast exposure still taboo even among breastfeeding proponents? Are we trying so hard to make breastfeeding palatable to society that we forget that its purpose is availability to the child, not service to etiquette? "Discreet nursing" advice hurts efforts to promote breastfeeding by perpetuating the myth that the act of nursing should be hidden. Even when veiled in friendly and caring voices, this advice can add to a woman's uneasiness about public nursing and does little to promote the healthy attitude that nursing is normal and socially acceptable.

So I have drafted my own "Indiscreet Breastfeeding Manifesto," to encourage women to bare their breasts with confidence and, in so doing, to enlighten others. I'm trying to spread the good news that breastfeeding is wonderful for mother and child and appropriate anywhere women are with their babies. I want to empower women who choose to breastfeed so that they never feel the need to hide behind a tea towel. I want people to know that breastfeeding is happening right under their noses, just as it has for millions of years. I want them to look, blush, marvel, and ask questions. I want boys and girls to see mothers who are relaxed about nursing, so they grow up expecting to see breastfeeding wherever they go. I want to see more men like my husband, men who are completely nonchalant when their wives or other women flash some flesh in the act of nursing. I want to see women out in the world, nursing their babies with abandon while passersby smile at them encouragingly. Maybe someday, breastfeeding moms will be ubiquitous (again), and it will be the bottle that gets the raised eyebrows.


Indiscreet Breastfeeding Manifesto

  • I will nurse my child anytime, anywhere, no matter who is present or what I am wearing.
  • I will bare my breast with pride and confidence.
  • I will not apologize for nourishing and nurturing my child.
  • I will not smother my child with a napkin or blanket.
  • I will smile at everyone around me and ignore rude stares.
  • I will know that I am giving my child the perfect infant food from the most efficient, ecological, and economical delivery system.
  • I will know that I am giving my child the healthy start that is his or her birthright.
  • I will set an example for women and girls, educate the public, dispel breastfeeding myths, desexualize the breast, and make the world a better place, all through the simple act of feeding my child.

Sunday, August 12, 2012

Perillos of the Brazen Bull

What’s in a name?
The name of the village as being that of “Perillos” has come about through a series of changes, spun out as the centuries passed. Known variations of the name are, across time, Perelionis, Perelionibus, Perello, Perillou. In medieval charters, the area between Opoul and Vingrau was also called “Peyrouo Mount”, “Petrus’ Mount”. “Peyrouo”, which might have given rise to “Peyrios”, i.e. “stony ground”, and later “Perillos”. But it is less known, it seems, that there is a famous “Perillos”, of Greek mythical fame. 

A Brazen Bull
Perillos “of Athens” was therefore of Athens. He is also sometimes referred to as Perillus and Perilaus, more Latinised renderings of his Greek name. It was Perillos of Athens who proposed the “Brazen Bull” as a form of torture to Phalaris, the tyrant of Acragas in Sicily, ca. 570 to 554 BC. Though Phalaris had brought the city wealth, he was also reputed for his excessive cruelty. It is even said that he ate suckling babies. 

Whether true or not, Perillos approached the man with his proposed invention: a bull, made entirely of brass, hollow, with a door in the side. The condemned were shut in the bull and a fire was set under it, heating the metal until it became “yellow hot” and causing the person inside to roast to death.

The device seemed to meet with the satisfaction of Phalaris, who allegedly commanded that the bull was designed in such a way that the smoke of the roasting human inside would rise in spicy clouds of incense, whereas the head of the ox was to be designed so that the screams were converted into the sound of a bellowing of a bull. It is said that when the bull was reopened, the scorched bones of the remains shone like jewels and were made into bracelets.
 
Perillos’ tomb 

Though Saunière might have made two tombs of Perillos very famous, Perillos of Athens was clearly someone associated with death himself – making the Brazen Bull a tomb for many – and himself. Once the Brazen Bull was completed, Phalaris wanted to test the device. With apparently no real criminals or others on hands, Perillos hopped right into the device himself, to demonstrate to Phalaris that the modifications made to the oxen’s head did indeed sound like bellowing. But Perillos was apparently unaware that Phalaris would lock him in, and set the fire alight. Perillos of Athens was soon no more, though he apparently did not roast the inventor completely. He apparently freed him while still alive, but only to be thrown from the top of a hill – rather than receiving the reward Perillos hoped he would have gotten for his invention. 

Myth or legend?
Some have labelled the story of the bull as pure invention. Pindar, who lived less than a century afterwards, expressly linked this instrument of torture with Phalaris, underlining the historical nature of the device, and therefore Perillos of Athens. There was certainly a brazen bull at Agrigentum (Phalaris’ city on Sicily) that was carried off by the Carthaginians to Carthage, where it was recaptured by Scipio the Elder, who returned it to Sicily in ca. 200 BC. However, others suggest it was Scipio the Younger who returned the bull in ca. 150 BC. 

Torture or sacrifice?
The choice of a bull was – to say the least – an inspired choice. Bull cults were notorious throughout Antiquity, throughout the Middle East, whether we look at the famous scenes of bull leaping in Crete, or the cult of Mithras during the Roman Empire – a religion that was a serious contender for being the cherished religion of the Romans, in competition with Christianity. 

There was also the cult of the Phoenician Baal, e.g. on the Greek island of Rhodes. There, it was said that when misfortune threatened Rhodes, the brazen bulls in Baal’s temple bellowed. It is believed that the Rhodians brought this worship to Gela, which they founded conjointly with the Cretans, and from Gela it passed to Sicily, and Phalaris. This would suggest that Perillos of Athens’ invention did not come out of nowhere, but was part of a tradition.

Equally, human sacrifices to Baal were common, and, though in Phoenicia proper there is no proof that the victims were burned alive, the Carthaginians had a brazen image of Baal, from whose downturned hands the children slid into a pit of fire; and the story that Minos had a brazen man who pressed people to his glowing breast points to similar rites in Crete, where the child-devouring Minotaur must certainly be connected with Baal.
The question, therefore, is not whether “Perillos of Athens” was a man who had invented a new method of torture, or whether he was merely the fashioner of a device that was in common usage across the Mediterranean basin, and which he now introduced to Sicily. And, of course, whether he brought it to Sicily as a means of torture, or as part of a bull-worshipping religion. In the past, there was little to no difference between human sacrifice and the manner in which criminals were disposed. The latter were normally treated as sacrificial offerings. Equally, children and infants were often sacrificed in great times of need. 

Taurus Inferno
What comes around, goes around. And it is therefore no doubt not a surprise that Phalaris himself is said to have been killed in the brazen bull when he was overthrown by Telemachus, the ancestor of Theron.

The invention was definitely popular. In later centuries, the Romans are recorded as having used this torture device to kill some Christian martyrs, notably Saint Eustace, who, according to Christian tradition, was roasted in a brazen bull with his wife and children by Emperor Hadrian. Another martyr who died in this manner was Saint Antipas, Bishop of Pergamon during the persecutions of Emperor Domitian, and the first martyr in Asia Minor, in ca. 92. The device was still in use two centuries later, when another Christian martyr, Saint Pelagia of Tarsus, is said to have been burned in one in 287 by the Emperor Diocletian. Little wonder, therefore, that in medieval times, the device was mentioned in Dante’s Inferno. 

More Greeks
In Greek mythology, Perileos (yet another variation of its spelling, and sometimes referred to as Perilaus) was the son of Icarius and Periboea. He accused Orestes of the murder of his cousin Clytemnestra. The son of Argonaut Ancaeus of Samos and Samia, a demigoddess, was also named Perileos. So it is clear that Perillos of Athens was named after a – minor – character of the Greek world. 

Periboea was a river nymph, who married Icarius, a Spartan king and a champion runner. The couple had three children: Penelope, Perileos and Iphthime. Icarius stated he would not allow anyone to marry his daughter unless he beat him in a race, a challenge in which Odysseus succeeded. 

Because of his role in Homer’s Odyssey and his key role in the saga of Orestes, which became the topic of many spectacles, ancient Greeks were familiar with the legend and the man. In the Homeric story, Orestes was absent from Mycenae when his father, Agamemnon, returned from the Trojan War with Cassandra, a Trojan Princess, as his concubine, and was murdered with an axe by his wife, Clytemnestra, in retribution for his sacrifice of his daughter Iphigeneia to obtain favourable winds to Troy for the Greek fleet. The accuser, as mentioned, was Perillos. 

ET IN ARCADIA EGO
The second Greek legend is of even more interest. Perillos was the son of Argonaut Anceaus of Samos. First of all, Anceaus of Samos was commonly confused with Anceaus of… Arcadia! The confusion between the two Anceaus is largely because both were killed by a boar. 

Anceaus of Samos was king of Samos, and known to be a helmsman of remarkable skill. Anceaus married Samia, daughter of the river god Maeander, who bore him Perilaus, Enudus, Samus, Alitherses, and Parthenope, the mother of Lycomedes. We, of course, need to underline that the highest rank within the Priory of Sion was claimed to be not that of Grand Master… but Helmsman. Furthermore, Anceaus of Samos was, of course, an Argonaut, linked with the constellation of Argo, and it is Pierre Plantard himself who, in Gérard’s de Sède’s book on Gisors, makes references to the importance of this constellation and its “Helmsman star” Canopus.

We can, of course, only ask the question whether someone involved with the creation of the mythology of Rennes-le-Château confused Anceaus of Samos with Anceaus of Arcadia. If he did, then bringing Arcadia into the story of Rennes-le-Château is actually a hidden, indirect, reference to Perillos. But that within Greek mythology there are direct references to Perillos, should perhaps be entered into a decades-long debate of the story of Rennes-le-Château.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Brave or Brazen? Bold Tactics Don't Always Get the Job 

Recruiters say more job seekers are taking unusual steps to be noticed—almost always without success. Instead, the recruiters say candidates often hurt their chances by appearing brazen, overly persistent or rude.
In April, a job candidate scheduled an hour long interview for himself by sending a meeting-request invite via Microsoft Outlook to New York executive recruiter Kim Bishop, who ignored the request. Ms. Bishop canceled the meeting and won't speak with the job hunter. "I just thought it was inappropriate and too aggressive," she says. "It would be like walking into someone's office without an invite."

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In order to stand apart from the competition, Jim Winninger has sent packages to hiring managers with an embroidered shirt and a catchy gift tag.

Recruiters at Philips Electronics NV say a growing number of job candidates with scheduled phone interviews are instead appearing at the office uninvited. Russell Schramm, senior manager of recruiting for Philips Electronics North America, says candidates hope to meet and impress hiring managers. He says hiring managers generally interview the candidate in the lobby, but make a note of the incident. When people who have had no contact with the firm appear without warning, they're told that staffers are unavailable.
Angela Mellow says she has twice shown up unannounced at the offices of hiring managers at two companies. Ms. Mellow was laid off from a San Diego accounting job in November and has since applied to more than 100 jobs, without luck. The unscheduled appearances didn't help either. Ms. Mellow says one manager met her at the front desk and spoke to her for 10 minutes. In the other case, a staffer said the position had been filled. She hopes the visits helped create a connection, but admits recruiters "may be turned off if you're not following protocol."

Health insurer Cigna Corp. says some job seekers send resumes directly to Chief Executive H. Edward Hanway or top lieutenants, trying to appear as a friend to improve their chances. Hiring manager Eric Kaulfuss says such stunts will hurt a candidate. "We're evaluating how they interact, and if there's behavior we don't want in our organization, we will filter that out," he says.

Tory Johnson, chief executive of Women For Hire, which arranges job fairs and recruitment services for women, says two mothers of candidates recently called her on their children's behalf. Ms. Johnson says she thinks neither candidate knew about the calls.

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Career experts say patience is important, even in a tough job market. Lynn Berger, a New York career coach, says repeat phone calls to recruiters can seem burdensome. With caller ID, she notes, recruiters can know who is calling without answering. Ms. Bishop says candidates should be assertive when following up, but not aggressive.

Recruiters say candidates should understand that they are swamped with applications. If a recruiter offers a phone conversation rather than an in-person meeting, graciously accept it, says Eileen Finn, president of Eileen Finn & Associates, an executive-search firm in New York.

Recruiters say the best ways to stand out don't change with the unemployment rate: network, craft a well-written resume and cover letter, and be prepared during interviews.

But Jim Winninger suspects his unusual tactic helped win an interview. Mr. Winninger, 60, has sent dress shirts to two hiring managers embroidered with his contact information, along with a note reading, "If you want a training manager willing to give you the shirt off his back to work for you, look inside."

He says one hiring manager called, but didn't mention the shirt. Mr. Winninger concedes that "I"m not going to get a job as a result of sending someone a shirt. All I'm trying to do with that is get an interview."

 

 

Sunday, July 1, 2012

What does brazen mean?

BRAZEN (adjective)
  The adjective BRAZEN has 2 senses:
1. unrestrained by convention or propriety
2. made of or resembling brass (as in color or hardness)
  Familiarity information: BRAZEN used as an adjective is rare.

BRAZEN (verb)
  The verb BRAZEN has 1 sense:
1. face with defiance or impudence
  Familiarity information: BRAZEN used as a verb is very rare.

BRAZEN (adjective)

Sense 1
Meaning:
Unrestrained by convention or propriety
Synonyms:
Context examples:
an audacious trick to pull / a barefaced hypocrite / the most bodacious display of tourism this side of Anaheim / bald-faced lies / brazen arrogance / the modern world with its quick material successes and insolent belief in the boundless possibilities of progress
Similar:
unashamed (used of persons or their behavior; feeling no shame)

Sense 2
Meaning:
Made of or resembling brass (as in color or hardness)
Classified under:
Relational adjectives (pertainyms)
Pertainym:
brass (an alloy of copper and zinc)

BRAZEN (verb)

Sense 1
Meaning:
Face with defiance or impudence
Classified under:
Verbs of telling, asking, ordering, singing
Context example:
brazen it out
Hypernyms (to "brazen" is one way to...):
dare; defy (challenge)
Sentence frames:
Somebody ----s something
Somebody ----s somebody

Brazen is an adjective and is used to mean bold and shameless. Something which is marked by insolent audacity is said to be brazen. Brazen also means a loud or harsh sound which resonates. Example: the brazen resonance of sword fights. A brazen act shocks people and the person who commits such an act is not ashamed of it. In literary sense, brazen is to have a gleaming yellow color.

This word has its origin in Middle English and Old English. In the former, it was used as 'brazen' and in the latter, it was brazen. This word meant 'made from brasses. Other words that can be used as synonyms are: assuming, assumptive, audacious, boldfaced, brash, cheeky, contumelious, familiar, forward and overconfident. For example, when someone brazens something out; that person deals with a matter that is tricky or embarrassing. He faces the situation by appearing to be confident and does not disgrace himself. 
 

Sunday, June 17, 2012

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